“Perfect” versus “Good Enough”

February 23, 2012

Parenting is considered to be one of the most wonderful albeit hardest “jobs” we adults will ever have. You welcome a child into your family and perhaps you don’t delve deeply into just how much things might change—elevating expectations as you adjust to being together, developing and adhering to schedules, rules and boundaries that work [...]

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Unconditionally

February 14, 2012

We use the word or a form of it often to qualify the concept of love, specifically how we expect to or do feel about our children. Unconditionally—without limitations, absolute.
We use “unconditionally” to express “pure” love, of that between members of our family, those who we are profoundly committed to, no matter what. Loving unconditionally comes from [...]

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The Importance of Your History

January 30, 2012

History: Events that have happened in the past. People you’ve known, what you’ve experienced. How you were parented. What continues to shape you, your personality and feelings. What guides you on your journey…
What’s your life story? Are there threads of themes or feelings? Are there particular phases you are uncomfortable with or haven’t resolved?
I ask [...]

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Lost and Found: The Adoptee’s Voice

January 13, 2012

To be found implies you have been lost. Many adoptees express that they feel or have felt lost, due to loss.
Adult adoptees’ insights and experiences should not be ignored or disregarded; however they often are. Adult adoptees’ stories, sometimes painful or joyful or mixed, are valid. They should be invited to the “table” and encouraged [...]

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The Importance of Things

January 5, 2012

In my daily work with parents I encourage them to read a variety of material about adoption. Blogs—by adoptive parents, birth parents, and those who have been adopted—are something I feel parents should read, with the intent of gleaming perspective, understanding and empathy for the complexities that adoption encompasses. I’m linking to a recent post [...]

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Happy Holidays

December 17, 2011

Everyone is home. Just this week I took two days off to pick my oldest up from college and bring him home (along with a special young lady).
It is difficult to explain the joy in having us all together.  I feel, well…, almost giddy. Our family feels more settled, content and accepting of the changes that [...]

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