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Birth Parent Conversations

National Adoption Awareness Month: “Build Capacity to Make Lasting Change”

November 10, 2011

The first major effort to promote adoption, by Massachusetts Governor Mike Dukakis in 1976, was for the purpose of educating people about the need for permanent families for children in the foster care system. The idea grew and spread throughout the nation. President Reagan created National Adoption Week through a presidential proclamation in 1984, and [...]

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Pebbles…

March 20, 2011

Do you appreciate one-liners? I certainly do.  I believe they are important. They can make us laugh (those endorphins are good for us), think and act. There are the comedic one-liners, jokes—the silly, the funny, the dirty, the stupid. They come out of nowhere, surprising you, making you chuckle, for example: “Do not argue with [...]

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“Real”

February 3, 2011

So… What is “REAL?”
Merriam-Webster defines real as, “not artificial, fraudulent, or illusory; occurring or existing in actuality; of or relating to practical or everyday concerns or activities; existing as a physical entity and having properties that deviate from an ideal, law, or standard.”
“On Real Parents,” a recent post on Grown in My Heart, contributor Jessica [...]

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How to Help Your Child Process the Past

October 21, 2010

Adoptive parents are very good about painting the rosy picture—how they came to be families, how they love their children. Parents do this to claim their children. The also do this because as an adoptive family they are in the position of having to validate their family to extended family, friends and strangers. But often, [...]

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And What of the Fathers?

June 17, 2010

My children have rarely asked about their birth fathers. Their questions and comments focus on their birth mothers. When attempting to steer them in the direction of birth fathers, I’ve had little luck.
I can’t walk in my kids’ shoes. But I try as hard as I can to understand their perspectives, a way to relate, [...]

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A Birthmother’s Thoughts

June 2, 2010

Some adoptive parents have a relationship with the birthmother of their child. Others do not. Regardless, the birthmother and adoptive parent still travel the journey of adoption together, because they are part of the child’s journey.
What does a birthmother want the adopted child to know?
After re-reading The Best for You, I Wish for You a [...]

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