Parenting from “More”

February 17, 2016

Just shy of two decades ago, early on in the process of adopting, I asked some parents what it was like to parent the adopted child. The responses were typical: “Wonderful!” “It’s as though she’s always been with us!” “Seamless!” I listened but felt I wasn’t privy to the reality of adoption. Something within me, […]

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National Adoption Awareness Month: Editing and Balancing the Adoption Narrative

November 24, 2014

“Celebrating adoption may mean celebrating family separation, secrets, sealed birth records, lies.” ~ Jodi Haywood This month Laura Barcella bravely shares the difficult feelings she has experienced and continues to experience as an adopted person on the NY Times online blog, Motherlode. I encourage you to read Laura’s words and to read the linked articles […]

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Reunited Twin Sisters Grow Up Worlds Apart

October 19, 2014

“Even if I run and run I can’t stop thinking of her. My biggest wish is one day she’ll come here and see where I live. … I think about her every night because I miss her so much. I care about her a lot.” Alexandra, adopted daughter of Wenche and Sigmund Hauglum, Fresvik, Norway, […]

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Overthinking It?

September 16, 2013

Today I’m wearing both my parent  and educator “hats.” I had an interesting and lively conversation with my oldest daughter during a very long drive home from a soccer match this past weekend. I share this because it’s unusual for three reasons: 1)   Her siblings weren’t in the car to interrupt us. 2)   She didn’t […]

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April 10, 2013

I am, with my friend and colleague Michelle, producing and directing Listen to Your Mother in Indianapolis. Recently, during our first rehearsal, I was struck over and over again by how the common threads of humanity—joy, surprise, feelings of being overwhelmed, gratitude, fear, longing, loss, and love—intertwined in a room that was, at first, mostly strangers. Connection […]

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The Sound of Hope

April 2, 2013

This is the second year I’ve participated in an adoption memoir blog tour, orchestrated by my friend and colleague Lori Holden. As part of the tour participants have been asked to reflect on different questions pertaining to Anne Bauer’s The Sound of Hope:A True Story of an Adoptee’s Quest for Her Origins. When reading The […]

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