Grief/Grieving

National Adoption Awareness Month: “Build Capacity to Make Lasting Change”

November 10, 2011

The first major effort to promote adoption, by Massachusetts Governor Mike Dukakis in 1976, was for the purpose of educating people about the need for permanent families for children in the foster care system. The idea grew and spread throughout the nation. President Reagan created National Adoption Week through a presidential proclamation in 1984, and […]

Read more →

Shoes

July 6, 2011

There is a saying of “putting yourself in someone else’s shoes.” It refers to imagining what it what it would be like to be that person, to have their experiences. Empathy. I think of these metaphorical shoes often, especially as an adoptive parent. My kids wear their “shoes” everyday. Sometimes they’ve appeared tattered—unrecognizable for the […]

Read more →

Triggers: Death

May 21, 2011

Adoption has typically been perceived as a one-time event, but we have come to realize that the opposite is true: adoption is life-long. Adoption often impacts life experiences. One of those experiences is death—of pets, of people. In death we do a number of things. We look back, revisiting memories we had with that person […]

Read more →

Triggers: Mother’s Day

May 6, 2011

Mother’s Day is this Sunday. And, similar to the majority of women, Mother’s Day holds great meaning for me. It is a day I celebrate being a mother. And it is also a day of quiet reflection, for I share Mother’s Day with unknown remarkable women whose invisible features reside in my children’s faces. Mother’s […]

Read more →

Pebbles…

March 20, 2011

Do you appreciate one-liners? I certainly do.  I believe they are important. They can make us laugh (those endorphins are good for us), think and act. There are the comedic one-liners, jokes—the silly, the funny, the dirty, the stupid. They come out of nowhere, surprising you, making you chuckle, for example: “Do not argue with […]

Read more →

How to Help Your Child Process the Past

October 21, 2010

Adoptive parents are very good about painting the rosy picture—how they came to be families, how they love their children. Parents do this to claim their children. The also do this because as an adoptive family they are in the position of having to validate their family to extended family, friends and strangers. But often, […]

Read more →