Unresolved Issues – Parents

The Importance of Veracity

May 17, 2013

“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.” ~ Thomas Jefferson One of the questions I’m regularly asked by clients is, “Do I need/have to tell my child everything?!” My response is always the same, “Yes, in age-appropriate language and prior to adolescence.” Telling the truths, even the difficult ones, is part of […]

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Adoptive Parenting Needs: Entitlement

March 12, 2012

I’m closing in on close to two decades of parenting and I still hear it—“real”—used as a qualifier of relationships that our children have with their birth parents, siblings, and adoptive parents, as in who is real and who is not. The concept of “real” is confusing, intimidating, or can elicit emotional injury because, uttered […]

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“Perfect” versus “Good Enough”

February 23, 2012

Parenting is considered to be one of the most wonderful albeit hardest “jobs” we adults will ever have. You welcome a child into your family and perhaps you don’t delve deeply into just how much things might change—elevating expectations as you adjust to being together, developing and adhering to schedules, rules and boundaries that work […]

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The Importance of Your History

January 30, 2012

History: Events that have happened in the past. People you’ve known, what you’ve experienced. How you were parented. What continues to shape you, your personality and feelings. What guides you on your journey… What’s your life story? Are there threads of themes or feelings? Are there particular phases you are uncomfortable with or haven’t resolved? […]

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Symposium 2011 Opening Adoption

August 29, 2011

I’m presenting with my friend and colleague Lori Holden of WriteMindOpenHeart and the Open Adoption Examiner on “Tips from the Trenches: Finding Middle Ground in Open Adoptive Parenting” at the Open Adoption Symposium: Realities, Possibilities and Challenges in Richmond VA, September 23-24, 2011.   Registration is $85 for the two-day symposium and includes lunches. Registration is open […]

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Adoption “Invisible”

April 16, 2011

The adoptive status of children must be addressed early on, and be ongoing. How children view and process adoption changes as they move through the developmental stages. Children who are the same race as their adoptive parents comprise a healthy percentage of adoptions, regardless if their adoption was domestic or international. Children who are the […]

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