Transracial Families

What You Need to Know to Help Your Transracially-Adopted Child Thrive

March 11, 2016

We white parents believe we adopt transracially with our eyes and hearts wide open. We feel fully prepared to parent our child. We attend the required education to become parents to our remarkable kids. Sometimes: We go beyond the aesthetics presented. We read, research, and ask questions about race and racism. We take notes. We […]

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“A” is for Adoption-Attuned Parenting

March 25, 2015

When I reflect on the process of attunement—a parent’s highly instinctive state of emotional connection with their child—the example that comes to mind is when a parent knows exactly why his or her child is crying. Admittedly it took me a few days to know what my infant Chinese daughter’s particular need was when she […]

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A Conversation with Friends about Adoption and Multiracial Families

June 27, 2014

It has been quite a while since I have posted. I have been busy with “projects”—producing and directing Listen To Your Mother, preparing for and presenting at a national conference, preparing for an international summit on motherhood and mindfulness, and working on my new book, Writing to Heal Adoption Grief: Making Connections & Moving Forward. […]

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The Gulf In Between

March 19, 2012

The complexity of transracial adoption can be enormous, especially when you consider ethnic and cultural ramifications for your child. What I mean is that no matter how committed you are (and studies prove how committed adoptive parents are), no matter how hard you try, —exposure to role models, food, music, art, language, festivals, traditions—you will […]

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Transracial Parenting: Race Talk = Mandatory

April 8, 2011

One of the more “popular” classes I teach is on parenting transracially. The class typically begins quietly, but soon becomes rather lively with a lot of great introspection, sharing and interaction. To date, the parents I have worked with have been Caucasian. Their children have been adopted domestically and internationally, and they do not “match” […]

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The Parenting Summit

February 27, 2011

I’m excited to be speaking at The Parenting Summit—a free online event featuring video messages from a number of leading parenting and family experts. Each speaker will share a five to twenty minute recorded video message with tips and advice on becoming a more effective parent. Among the many topics are Adoption 101, Raising CEO […]

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