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Being Present

May 15, 2012

Sometimes a hug isn’t enough. Sometimes love isn’t either.
After asking permission to come up to the sacred spot (another story), I climbed into the top bunk to find my sniffling, sobbing, sad daughter wrapped up in her blankies and surrounded by her collection of stuffed animals and one of our (her) boy kitties. The heat emitting [...]

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Curiosity Does More Than “Kill the Cat”

April 23, 2012

I witness curiosity—the intense desire to know or learn—in varying degrees in my children. One of my kiddos pretty much takes life at “face-value,” accepting whatever comes his way, not questioning much. But another truly leaves “no stone unturned,” examining life and situations and probing deeper, often going into further study.
When small my daughter could [...]

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Full

April 4, 2012

I received an email from a friend the other day, also an adoptive parent. She shared that her daughter was all “filled up” and why this was so, and I smiled, inwardly nodding as I understood the joy in her story. I witnessed a similar “filling up” with my son some weeks ago. My husband was [...]

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Adoptive Parenting Needs: Education

March 5, 2012

You have special needs as parents of children who have been adopted. More is required of you as parent because your child has certain emotional vulnerabilities due to adoption. You must prepare to address those and help your child with them. One of these tools at your disposal is education, knowledge. This should be ongoing [...]

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In Support Of

February 27, 2012

Support. Who needs it? Well, everyone can use some from time to time.
Whether online or face-to-face, support, in the form of support groups, provides an environment in which all members of the adoption “constellation”—birth parents, adoptees (teens and adults), foster parents and pre- and post-adoptive parents can find encouragement and share experiences with others who [...]

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The Importance of Your History

January 30, 2012

History: Events that have happened in the past. People you’ve known, what you’ve experienced. How you were parented. What continues to shape you, your personality and feelings. What guides you on your journey…
What’s your life story? Are there threads of themes or feelings? Are there particular phases you are uncomfortable with or haven’t resolved?
I ask [...]

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