The Messenger

Can Open Adoption Ideas Apply to International Adoption Situations? Part 2

July 19, 2013

Today I’m hosting the second day of three-part series examining how we can apply the concepts of openness to international adoption. Parenting the adopted child is where I focus so when I was asked to team up with Laura Dennis, author of Adopted Reality, A Memoir and Lori Holden, author (with Chrystal Hass) of The […]

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The Importance of Veracity

May 17, 2013

“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.” ~ Thomas Jefferson One of the questions I’m regularly asked by clients is, “Do I need/have to tell my child everything?!” My response is always the same, “Yes, in age-appropriate language and prior to adolescence.” Telling the truths, even the difficult ones, is part of […]

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Tools: Narratives

September 13, 2012

As we are fully aware of, knowing where we come from influences the lens of how we view our futures and ourselves. So important, and yet many children who have been adopted don’t know or have access to their full story—that which preceded their adoption into their families. Many children who have been adopted arrive […]

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Trayvon Martin: An Opportunity for Introspection, Honesty and Dialogue

March 23, 2012

A senseless tragedy occurred on February 26, 2012, in Sanford, FL. However, we’ve just recently begun to learn about it. The specifics about what happened and when are still coming to light, but this much is known: 17 year-old Trayvon Martin is dead, killed by self-appointed neighborhood watch captain George Zimmerman. Trayvon caught the attention […]

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Adoptive Parenting Needs: Entitlement

March 12, 2012

I’m closing in on close to two decades of parenting and I still hear it—“real”—used as a qualifier of relationships that our children have with their birth parents, siblings, and adoptive parents, as in who is real and who is not. The concept of “real” is confusing, intimidating, or can elicit emotional injury because, uttered […]

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Adoption and the Movies

March 2, 2012

Thinking about seeing a movie with your kids this weekend? I know; there isn’t much out at this time of the year, however you can pop and butter some corn, sit down together on your cozy couch, and catch the recent first-run you’ve wanted to see, or watch an old favorite or two. As wonderful […]

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