The Messenger

Listen to My Interview on the Spirit-Led Parenting Summit

April 13, 2016

Spirit-led parenting is one of the core tenets of my parent guide, What To Expect From Your Adopted Tween. Spirit-led parenting focuses on trusting yourself to parent your child compassionately and effectively, based on your life experiences, wisdom, and the common sense you have amassed. Spirit-led parenting is about connecting to your intuition and trusting […]

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When Your Adopted Child Denies Her Heritage

February 24, 2016

As a parent of transracially adopted children, it is my (and their dad’s) job to foster authentic connections with people and role models who share their ethnic and racial backgrounds. These individuals can inspire our adopted children to continue exploring and learning about their cultures of origin. We have made building cultural competency a priority […]

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You Are the Gatekeeper of Your Child’s Story

February 8, 2016

Adoptive parents are proud parents, wanting to share the emotions, wonder, and joy of their child. Often, what they feel is akin to wishing to share aspects of creating and bringing a child into the world—the labor and delivery, milestones, and bumps in the road. But, there is a big difference. Their child is adopted. […]

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National Adoption Awareness Month: Editing and Balancing the Adoption Narrative

November 24, 2014

“Celebrating adoption may mean celebrating family separation, secrets, sealed birth records, lies.” ~ Jodi Haywood This month Laura Barcella bravely shares the difficult feelings she has experienced and continues to experience as an adopted person on the NY Times online blog, Motherlode. I encourage you to read Laura’s words and to read the linked articles […]

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I Believe…

December 31, 2013

Amidst winter’s flurries and the waning hours of 2013 I reflect on what a year it has been while looking ahead to the coming days, weeks and months of 2014. I believe: Children are our future. Children possess clear voices and are astute observers of what goes on around and involves them. They are mirrors […]

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Overthinking It?

September 16, 2013

Today I’m wearing both my parent  and educator “hats.” I had an interesting and lively conversation with my oldest daughter during a very long drive home from a soccer match this past weekend. I share this because it’s unusual for three reasons: 1)   Her siblings weren’t in the car to interrupt us. 2)   She didn’t […]

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