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The Messenger

Lost and Found: The Adoptee’s Voice

January 13, 2012

To be found implies you have been lost. Many adoptees express that they feel or have felt lost, due to loss.
Adult adoptees’ insights and experiences should not be ignored or disregarded; however they often are. Adult adoptees’ stories, sometimes painful or joyful or mixed, are valid. They should be invited to the “table” and encouraged [...]

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Timing Can be Everything

December 1, 2011

I’ve wanted to address this topic for some time and it seems particularly fitting as we move forward into the hectic holiday season. What topic? Time management.
We’re all busy. Some more than others. And people vary on how much they can have and manage on their “plate” at any given time.
In classes I encourage parents [...]

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Can We Heal? Can We Help To Heal?

November 3, 2011

By Presidential proclamation November is again Adoption Awareness Month. In regard to this, two-time adoptee Jennifer Lauck, author of the best sellers Blackbird, Still Waters and Found, has launched an initiative to open up a national conversation about adoption.
Jennifer believes, as I do, that there is a way to heal and transcend the experience of adoption [...]

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Advocacy: Orphans and Vulnerable Children Matter

October 24, 2011

What is your family doing for Halloween? If you’re like us, you’re probably expecting troves of zombies, princesses, Lady Gagas, super heroes, and Harry Potters and casts of his characters. And similarly, you’ve purchased an obscene amount of unhealthy, although delicious, candy and other yummies to give out to costumed children who will bravely knock [...]

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Preparing School-Aged Siblings

October 12, 2011

“Is _______’s other mommy sad?”
This was the question from my son, then age six, just days after we arrived home with our daughter—his sister. My son was overjoyed and oh-so-proud of his baby sister. Prior to her arrival home (and still to this day) he learned vast amounts of information and embraced her birth culture [...]

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The Hard Truths: Band-Aids Won’t Work

September 22, 2011

I can’t stress enough how important it for parents to share all of their child’s birth history and related facts with them prior to adolescence, in age-appropriate language. Yes, the hard truths are difficult to share because adoptive parents have so much emotion invested in the adoption journey and love their children so deeply. But [...]

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