Claiming

Parenting and Partnering: I Hope You Dance

June 22, 2016

Do you dance? I do, although not as well as my husband. I can work through and memorize the steps and patterns, but the fluidity takes some time. In fact, it took me years to learn the true art of partnering with him—the essential non-verbal cues necessary for a smooth connection and easy transitions between […]

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Preparing Your Child for the Arrival of Their Adopted Sibling

March 29, 2016

I parent biological and adopted kids. Preparing children for their new sibling, whether biological or adopted, is very similar. However, there are additional topics that need to be addressed regarding the arrival of the adopted sibling. Focus on the expectations and fears that accompany the sibling’s arrival. The majority of children experience stress when they […]

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Jumping through Hoops: Readoption

March 3, 2016

I had another post ready to go this morning. However, I rescheduled it for later. Why? Because I need to put my advocacy hat on. Why? For me, it’s all about the child. I feel obligated to address one of the hoops adoptive parents must or are compelled to jump through after welcoming their child […]

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Parenting the Adopted Child: It’s About More than “Heart”

February 13, 2014

Adopting parents often ask me how they can build a strong parent-child connection. They are nervous and excited about “getting it right.” I believe that building a strong parent-child connection comes down to several key points that must become lifelong commitments. Be proactive. Educate yourself by reading adoption books and websites. Create a library of […]

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Tools: Narratives

September 13, 2012

As we are fully aware of, knowing where we come from influences the lens of how we view our futures and ourselves. So important, and yet many children who have been adopted don’t know or have access to their full story—that which preceded their adoption into their families. Many children who have been adopted arrive […]

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Adoptive Parenting Needs: Entitlement

March 12, 2012

I’m closing in on close to two decades of parenting and I still hear it—“real”—used as a qualifier of relationships that our children have with their birth parents, siblings, and adoptive parents, as in who is real and who is not. The concept of “real” is confusing, intimidating, or can elicit emotional injury because, uttered […]

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