Time-Ins Versus Time-Outs

March 16, 2012

My last post was about entitlement, fully embracing that you have the right to parent your child. Entitlement means having the confidence to step up to all of the responsibilities and risks associated with parenting. This includes handling discipline—the training or teaching that reinforces the desired specific behavior (self-regulation) and ordered way of life compatible […]

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Lost and Found: The Adoptee’s Voice

January 13, 2012

To be found implies you have been lost. Many adoptees express that they feel or have felt lost, due to loss. Adult adoptees’ insights and experiences should not be ignored or disregarded; however they often are. Adult adoptees’ stories, sometimes painful or joyful or mixed, are valid. They should be invited to the “table” and […]

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Can We Heal? Can We Help To Heal?

November 3, 2011

By Presidential proclamation November is again Adoption Awareness Month. In regard to this, two-time adoptee Jennifer Lauck, author of the best sellers Blackbird, Still Waters and Found, has launched an initiative to open up a national conversation about adoption. Jennifer believes, as I do, that there is a way to heal and transcend the experience of […]

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How to Help Your Child Process the Past

October 21, 2010

Adoptive parents are very good about painting the rosy picture—how they came to be families, how they love their children. Parents do this to claim their children. The also do this because as an adoptive family they are in the position of having to validate their family to extended family, friends and strangers. But often, […]

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April 22, 2010

How does your child see his or her adoption? What does he or she know or not know? What will he or she think about their life as they gain knowledge of what occurred when they were infants, toddlers, or children? One of the best ways to help your child with information about  his or […]

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