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Parenting and Partnering: I Hope You Dance

June 22, 2016

Do you dance? I do, although not as well as my husband. I can work through and memorize the steps and patterns, but the fluidity takes some time. In fact, it took me years to learn the true art of partnering with him—the essential non-verbal cues necessary for a smooth connection and easy transitions between […]

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You Are the Gatekeeper of Your Child’s Story

February 8, 2016

Adoptive parents are proud parents, wanting to share the emotions, wonder, and joy of their child. Often, what they feel is akin to wishing to share aspects of creating and bringing a child into the world—the labor and delivery, milestones, and bumps in the road. But, there is a big difference. Their child is adopted. […]

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Finding Zoe: TMI (Too Much Information)

December 2, 2014

I was invited to participate in a review and discussion of the memoir Finding Zoe: A Deaf Woman’s Story of Identity, Love, and Adoption with several other open adoption writers/bloggers by my friend and colleague Lori Holden. Each participant was asked to submit questions for the others to chose from and answer, as well as a submit a few […]

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Parenting the Adopted Child: It’s About More than “Heart”

February 13, 2014

Adopting parents often ask me how they can build a strong parent-child connection. They are nervous and excited about “getting it right.” I believe that building a strong parent-child connection comes down to several key points that must become lifelong commitments. Be proactive. Educate yourself by reading adoption books and websites. Create a library of […]

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The Importance of Veracity

May 17, 2013

“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.” ~ Thomas Jefferson One of the questions I’m regularly asked by clients is, “Do I need/have to tell my child everything?!” My response is always the same, “Yes, in age-appropriate language and prior to adolescence.” Telling the truths, even the difficult ones, is part of […]

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Tools: Narratives

September 13, 2012

As we are fully aware of, knowing where we come from influences the lens of how we view our futures and ourselves. So important, and yet many children who have been adopted don’t know or have access to their full story—that which preceded their adoption into their families. Many children who have been adopted arrive […]

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