It’s Not About You

October 16, 2012

I say or contemplate about this often: “It’s not about me.” This phrase embodies what I’ve come to understand, what I ponder several times a day when working with clients or parenting my kiddos. “It’s not about me,” has become a mantra of sorts, reminding me to consider my children’s needs—those that stem from having […]

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April 4, 2012

I received an email from a friend the other day, also an adoptive parent. She shared that her daughter was all “filled up” and why this was so, and I smiled, inwardly nodding as I understood the joy in her story. I witnessed a similar “filling up” with my son some weeks ago. My husband was […]

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Lost and Found: The Adoptee’s Voice

January 13, 2012

To be found implies you have been lost. Many adoptees express that they feel or have felt lost, due to loss. Adult adoptees’ insights and experiences should not be ignored or disregarded; however they often are. Adult adoptees’ stories, sometimes painful or joyful or mixed, are valid. They should be invited to the “table” and […]

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Timing Can be Everything

December 1, 2011

I’ve wanted to address this topic for some time and it seems particularly fitting as we move forward into the hectic holiday season. What topic? Time management. We’re all busy. Some more than others. And people vary on how much they can have and manage on their “plate” at any given time. In classes I […]

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Can We Heal? Can We Help To Heal?

November 3, 2011

By Presidential proclamation November is again Adoption Awareness Month. In regard to this, two-time adoptee Jennifer Lauck, author of the best sellers Blackbird, Still Waters and Found, has launched an initiative to open up a national conversation about adoption. Jennifer believes, as I do, that there is a way to heal and transcend the experience of […]

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The Hard Truths: Band-Aids Won’t Work

September 22, 2011

I can’t stress enough how important it for parents to share all of their child’s birth history and related facts with them prior to adolescence, in age-appropriate language. Yes, the hard truths are difficult to share because adoptive parents have so much emotion invested in the adoption journey and love their children so deeply. But […]

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