Sense of Belonging

Parenting and Partnering: I Hope You Dance

June 22, 2016

Do you dance? I do, although not as well as my husband. I can work through and memorize the steps and patterns, but the fluidity takes some time. In fact, it took me years to learn the true art of partnering with him—the essential non-verbal cues necessary for a smooth connection and easy transitions between […]

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When Your Adopted Child Denies Her Heritage

February 24, 2016

As a parent of transracially adopted children, it is my (and their dad’s) job to foster authentic connections with people and role models who share their ethnic and racial backgrounds. These individuals can inspire our adopted children to continue exploring and learning about their cultures of origin. We have made building cultural competency a priority […]

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Parenting and the Importance of Self-Compassion

February 12, 2016

Today I’m hosting online, in a Facebook group for mamas: “Relationships, Intimacy, & Parenting.” The topic I’ll be exploring with group members is self-compassion, a necessary component of relationships, intimacy, and parenting—particularly when parenting the adopted child. I invite you to ask to be added to the group if the topic interests you. I say […]

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You Are the Gatekeeper of Your Child’s Story

February 8, 2016

Adoptive parents are proud parents, wanting to share the emotions, wonder, and joy of their child. Often, what they feel is akin to wishing to share aspects of creating and bringing a child into the world—the labor and delivery, milestones, and bumps in the road. But, there is a big difference. Their child is adopted. […]

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Reunited Twin Sisters Grow Up Worlds Apart

October 19, 2014

“Even if I run and run I can’t stop thinking of her. My biggest wish is one day she’ll come here and see where I live. … I think about her every night because I miss her so much. I care about her a lot.” Alexandra, adopted daughter of Wenche and Sigmund Hauglum, Fresvik, Norway, […]

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I Am Not Trayvon Martin

July 16, 2013

I hesitate to even begin to speak of this travesty, because I wasn’t there the night Trayvon was killed. I wasn’t present during the trial to listen to the facts and arguments of both sides. I wasn’t in the room while the jury deliberated, eventually handing down a “not guilty” verdict. Trayvon’s death has brought […]

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