Self-esteem

Tools: Narratives

September 13, 2012

As we are fully aware of, knowing where we come from influences the lens of how we view our futures and ourselves. So important, and yet many children who have been adopted don’t know or have access to their full story—that which preceded their adoption into their families. Many children who have been adopted arrive […]

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Being Present

May 15, 2012

Sometimes a hug isn’t enough. Sometimes love isn’t either. After asking permission to come up to the sacred spot (another story), I climbed into the top bunk to find my sniffling, sobbing, sad daughter wrapped up in her blankies and surrounded by her collection of stuffed animals and one of our (her) boy kitties. The heat […]

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Lost and Found: The Adoptee’s Voice

January 13, 2012

To be found implies you have been lost. Many adoptees express that they feel or have felt lost, due to loss. Adult adoptees’ insights and experiences should not be ignored or disregarded; however they often are. Adult adoptees’ stories, sometimes painful or joyful or mixed, are valid. They should be invited to the “table” and […]

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National Adoption Awareness Month: “Build Capacity to Make Lasting Change”

November 10, 2011

The first major effort to promote adoption, by Massachusetts Governor Mike Dukakis in 1976, was for the purpose of educating people about the need for permanent families for children in the foster care system. The idea grew and spread throughout the nation. President Reagan created National Adoption Week through a presidential proclamation in 1984, and […]

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Can We Heal? Can We Help To Heal?

November 3, 2011

By Presidential proclamation November is again Adoption Awareness Month. In regard to this, two-time adoptee Jennifer Lauck, author of the best sellers Blackbird, Still Waters and Found, has launched an initiative to open up a national conversation about adoption. Jennifer believes, as I do, that there is a way to heal and transcend the experience of […]

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The Core Issue of Rejection

May 29, 2011

Has your child, in some manner, asked you “Why me?”  If so, she is acting on a core issue inherent in adoption, one she likely doesn’t understand and yet is trying to cope with—rejection. Your child is aware (consciously or unconsciously) of the losses she has suffered and she is now, in a child’s true-to-form […]

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