Self-esteem

What You Need to Know to Help Your Transracially-Adopted Child Thrive

March 11, 2016

We white parents believe we adopt transracially with our eyes and hearts wide open. We feel fully prepared to parent our child. We attend the required education to become parents to our remarkable kids. Sometimes: We go beyond the aesthetics presented. We read, research, and ask questions about race and racism. We take notes. We […]

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Parenting and the Importance of Self-Compassion

February 12, 2016

Today I’m hosting online, in a Facebook group for mamas: “Relationships, Intimacy, & Parenting.” The topic I’ll be exploring with group members is self-compassion, a necessary component of relationships, intimacy, and parenting—particularly when parenting the adopted child. I invite you to ask to be added to the group if the topic interests you. I say […]

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You Are the Gatekeeper of Your Child’s Story

February 8, 2016

Adoptive parents are proud parents, wanting to share the emotions, wonder, and joy of their child. Often, what they feel is akin to wishing to share aspects of creating and bringing a child into the world—the labor and delivery, milestones, and bumps in the road. But, there is a big difference. Their child is adopted. […]

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Parenting the Adopted Child: It’s About More than “Heart”

February 13, 2014

Adopting parents often ask me how they can build a strong parent-child connection. They are nervous and excited about “getting it right.” I believe that building a strong parent-child connection comes down to several key points that must become lifelong commitments. Be proactive. Educate yourself by reading adoption books and websites. Create a library of […]

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Can Open Adoption Ideas Apply to International Adoption Situations? Part 2

July 19, 2013

Today I’m hosting the second day of three-part series examining how we can apply the concepts of openness to international adoption. Parenting the adopted child is where I focus so when I was asked to team up with Laura Dennis, author of Adopted Reality, A Memoir and Lori Holden, author (with Chrystal Hass) of The […]

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It’s Not About You

October 16, 2012

I say or contemplate about this often: “It’s not about me.” This phrase embodies what I’ve come to understand, what I ponder several times a day when working with clients or parenting my kiddos. “It’s not about me,” has become a mantra of sorts, reminding me to consider my children’s needs—those that stem from having […]

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