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Parenting and Partnering: I Hope You Dance

June 22, 2016

Do you dance? I do, although not as well as my husband. I can work through and memorize the steps and patterns, but the fluidity takes some time. In fact, it took me years to learn the true art of partnering with him—the essential non-verbal cues necessary for a smooth connection and easy transitions between […]

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Listen to My Interview on the Spirit-Led Parenting Summit

April 13, 2016

Spirit-led parenting is one of the core tenets of my parent guide, What To Expect From Your Adopted Tween. Spirit-led parenting focuses on trusting yourself to parent your child compassionately and effectively, based on your life experiences, wisdom, and the common sense you have amassed. Spirit-led parenting is about connecting to your intuition and trusting […]

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What You Need to Know to Help Your Transracially-Adopted Child Thrive

March 11, 2016

We white parents believe we adopt transracially with our eyes and hearts wide open. We feel fully prepared to parent our child. We attend the required education to become parents to our remarkable kids. Sometimes: We go beyond the aesthetics presented. We read, research, and ask questions about race and racism. We take notes. We […]

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Jumping through Hoops: Readoption

March 3, 2016

I had another post ready to go this morning. However, I rescheduled it for later. Why? Because I need to put my advocacy hat on. Why? For me, it’s all about the child. I feel obligated to address one of the hoops adoptive parents must or are compelled to jump through after welcoming their child […]

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Parenting and the Importance of Self-Compassion

February 12, 2016

Today I’m hosting online, in a Facebook group for mamas: “Relationships, Intimacy, & Parenting.” The topic I’ll be exploring with group members is self-compassion, a necessary component of relationships, intimacy, and parenting—particularly when parenting the adopted child. I invite you to ask to be added to the group if the topic interests you. I say […]

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“A” is for Adoption-Attuned Parenting

March 25, 2015

When I reflect on the process of attunement—a parent’s highly instinctive state of emotional connection with their child—the example that comes to mind is when a parent knows exactly why his or her child is crying. Admittedly it took me a few days to know what my infant Chinese daughter’s particular need was when she […]

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