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Lost and Found: The Adoptee’s Voice

January 13, 2012

To be found implies you have been lost. Many adoptees express that they feel or have felt lost, due to loss.
Adult adoptees’ insights and experiences should not be ignored or disregarded; however they often are. Adult adoptees’ stories, sometimes painful or joyful or mixed, are valid. They should be invited to the “table” and encouraged [...]

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Can We Heal? Can We Help To Heal?

November 3, 2011

By Presidential proclamation November is again Adoption Awareness Month. In regard to this, two-time adoptee Jennifer Lauck, author of the best sellers Blackbird, Still Waters and Found, has launched an initiative to open up a national conversation about adoption.
Jennifer believes, as I do, that there is a way to heal and transcend the experience of adoption [...]

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A Place to Begin

January 19, 2011

One of the classes I teach addresses transracial parenting. Within the framework of this class we discuss strategies for dealing with racism. Even in this progressive year of 2011, racism, like bias, stereotyping and discrimination, is everywhere.
Racism is personal; it is also institutional. Racism segregates individuals into castes and can damage souls. Racism strips people [...]

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How to Help Your Child Process the Past

October 21, 2010

Adoptive parents are very good about painting the rosy picture—how they came to be families, how they love their children. Parents do this to claim their children. The also do this because as an adoptive family they are in the position of having to validate their family to extended family, friends and strangers. But often, [...]

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Triggers: School

September 1, 2010

The new school year heralds a clean slate, an opportunity to address the challenges and build on the successes from the past year(s). But a new school year can also take on added significance, especially if your child is moving into a new section; say from elementary to middle school or changing buildings or schools.

School [...]

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Do You Have a Case of White Privilege?

May 11, 2010

Are you parenting transracially? I am. And the older my kids have become, the more aware I am of how we are seen outside of our immediate family, how my children are perceived and treated.
Parenting transracially can be an additional layer of adoptive parenting and it is something you need to examine. White parents have [...]

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