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Rejection

Can We Heal? Can We Help To Heal?

November 3, 2011

By Presidential proclamation November is again Adoption Awareness Month. In regard to this, two-time adoptee Jennifer Lauck, author of the best sellers Blackbird, Still Waters and Found, has launched an initiative to open up a national conversation about adoption.
Jennifer believes, as I do, that there is a way to heal and transcend the experience of adoption [...]

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Triggers: Separation

August 24, 2011

I’m up early again to write a post about triggers, specifically college, one my family is currently affected by. I address triggers as they relate to parenting children who have been adopted in-depth in my new terrific new e-guide, What To Expect From Your Adopted Child.
My oldest is heading off to college today and it [...]

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Now on Sale: What To Expect From Your Adopted Tween

August 1, 2011

Parenting is the most exciting, challenging, rewarding, emotionally taxing, and, hopefully, joyous role you will ever undertake. (I’m sure you have a host of words to describe parenting that I didn’t use…) My new e-guide, What To Expect From Your Adopted Tween, offers a balanced approach to understanding and supporting adolescents who have been adopted [...]

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Shoes

July 6, 2011

There is a saying of “putting yourself in someone else’s shoes.” It refers to imagining what it what it would be like to be that person, to have their experiences. Empathy.
I think of these metaphorical shoes often, especially as an adoptive parent. My kids wear their “shoes” everyday. Sometimes they’ve appeared tattered—unrecognizable for the [...]

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The Core Issue of Rejection

May 29, 2011

Has your child, in some manner, asked you “Why me?” If so, she is acting on a core issue inherent in adoption, one she likely doesn’t understand and yet is trying to cope with—rejection.
Your child is aware (consciously or unconsciously) of the losses she has suffered and she is now, in a child’s true-to-form ego-centric [...]

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Triggers: Death

May 21, 2011

Adoption has typically been perceived as a one-time event, but we have come to realize that the opposite is true: adoption is life-long. Adoption often impacts life experiences. One of those experiences is death—of pets, of people.
In death we do a number of things. We look back, revisiting memories we had with that person or [...]

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