Adopted Child

When Your Adopted Child Denies Her Heritage

February 24, 2016

As a parent of transracially adopted children, it is my (and their dad’s) job to foster authentic connections with people and role models who share their ethnic and racial backgrounds. These individuals can inspire our adopted children to continue exploring and learning about their cultures of origin. We have made building cultural competency a priority […]

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Parenting from “More”

February 17, 2016

Just shy of two decades ago, early on in the process of adopting, I asked some parents what it was like to parent the adopted child. The responses were typical: “Wonderful!” “It’s as though she’s always been with us!” “Seamless!” I listened but felt I wasn’t privy to the reality of adoption. Something within me, […]

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Parenting and the Importance of Self-Compassion

February 12, 2016

Today I’m hosting online, in a Facebook group for mamas: “Relationships, Intimacy, & Parenting.” The topic I’ll be exploring with group members is self-compassion, a necessary component of relationships, intimacy, and parenting—particularly when parenting the adopted child. I invite you to ask to be added to the group if the topic interests you. I say […]

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You Are the Gatekeeper of Your Child’s Story

February 8, 2016

Adoptive parents are proud parents, wanting to share the emotions, wonder, and joy of their child. Often, what they feel is akin to wishing to share aspects of creating and bringing a child into the world—the labor and delivery, milestones, and bumps in the road. But, there is a big difference. Their child is adopted. […]

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“A” is for Adoption-Attuned Parenting

March 25, 2015

When I reflect on the process of attunement—a parent’s highly instinctive state of emotional connection with their child—the example that comes to mind is when a parent knows exactly why his or her child is crying. Admittedly it took me a few days to know what my infant Chinese daughter’s particular need was when she […]

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Finding Zoe: TMI (Too Much Information)

December 2, 2014

I was invited to participate in a review and discussion of the memoir Finding Zoe: A Deaf Woman’s Story of Identity, Love, and Adoption with several other open adoption writers/bloggers by my friend and colleague Lori Holden. Each participant was asked to submit questions for the others to chose from and answer, as well as a submit a few […]

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