Loss

Overthinking It?

September 16, 2013

Today I’m wearing both my parent  and educator “hats.” I had an interesting and lively conversation with my oldest daughter during a very long drive home from a soccer match this past weekend. I share this because it’s unusual for three reasons: 1)   Her siblings weren’t in the car to interrupt us. 2)   She didn’t […]

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It’s Not About You

October 16, 2012

I say or contemplate about this often: “It’s not about me.” This phrase embodies what I’ve come to understand, what I ponder several times a day when working with clients or parenting my kiddos. “It’s not about me,” has become a mantra of sorts, reminding me to consider my children’s needs—those that stem from having […]

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Curiosity Does More Than “Kill the Cat”

April 23, 2012

I witness curiosity—the intense desire to know or learn—in varying degrees in my children. One of my kiddos pretty much takes life at “face-value,” accepting whatever comes his way, not questioning much. But another truly leaves “no stone unturned,” examining life and situations and probing deeper, often going into further study. When small my daughter […]

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Full

April 4, 2012

I received an email from a friend the other day, also an adoptive parent. She shared that her daughter was all “filled up” and why this was so, and I smiled, inwardly nodding as I understood the joy in her story. I witnessed a similar “filling up” with my son some weeks ago. My husband was […]

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Adoptive Parenting Needs: Education

March 5, 2012

You have special needs as parents of children who have been adopted. More is required of you as parent because your child has certain emotional vulnerabilities due to adoption. You must prepare to address those and help your child with them. One of these tools at your disposal is education, knowledge. This should be ongoing […]

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Lost and Found: The Adoptee’s Voice

January 13, 2012

To be found implies you have been lost. Many adoptees express that they feel or have felt lost, due to loss. Adult adoptees’ insights and experiences should not be ignored or disregarded; however they often are. Adult adoptees’ stories, sometimes painful or joyful or mixed, are valid. They should be invited to the “table” and […]

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