Loss

Listen to My Interview on the Spirit-Led Parenting Summit

April 13, 2016

Spirit-led parenting is one of the core tenets of my parent guide, What To Expect From Your Adopted Tween. Spirit-led parenting focuses on trusting yourself to parent your child compassionately and effectively, based on your life experiences, wisdom, and the common sense you have amassed. Spirit-led parenting is about connecting to your intuition and trusting […]

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When Your Adopted Child Denies Her Heritage

February 24, 2016

As a parent of transracially adopted children, it is my (and their dad’s) job to foster authentic connections with people and role models who share their ethnic and racial backgrounds. These individuals can inspire our adopted children to continue exploring and learning about their cultures of origin. We have made building cultural competency a priority […]

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Parenting from “More”

February 17, 2016

Just shy of two decades ago, early on in the process of adopting, I asked some parents what it was like to parent the adopted child. The responses were typical: “Wonderful!” “It’s as though she’s always been with us!” “Seamless!” I listened but felt I wasn’t privy to the reality of adoption. Something within me, […]

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Reunited Twin Sisters Grow Up Worlds Apart

October 19, 2014

“Even if I run and run I can’t stop thinking of her. My biggest wish is one day she’ll come here and see where I live. … I think about her every night because I miss her so much. I care about her a lot.” Alexandra, adopted daughter of Wenche and Sigmund Hauglum, Fresvik, Norway, […]

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An Exercise for Shifting Perspective on Adoption Loss

September 18, 2014

This post is shares one of the exercises that I and many other adoption educators, social workers, and parent coaches have used to facilitate easing parents into the “pay attention” mindset when preparing to adopt or parenting their adopted child. Adoption is seeded in loss. In other words adoption cannot happen unless there is loss. […]

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Parenting the Adopted Child: It’s About More than “Heart”

February 13, 2014

Adopting parents often ask me how they can build a strong parent-child connection. They are nervous and excited about “getting it right.” I believe that building a strong parent-child connection comes down to several key points that must become lifelong commitments. Be proactive. Educate yourself by reading adoption books and websites. Create a library of […]

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