Now on Sale: What To Expect From Your Adopted Tween

August 1, 2011

Parenting is the most exciting, challenging, rewarding, emotionally taxing, and, hopefully, joyous role you will ever undertake. (I’m sure you have a host of words to describe parenting that I didn’t use…) My new e-guide, What To Expect From Your Adopted Tween, offers a balanced approach to understanding and supporting adolescents who have been adopted […]

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The Issue of Control

June 4, 2011

The majority of humans arrive in the world pre-wired to work towards, along with independence and a sense of  identity, control. The child who has been adopted has had, in a very real sense, their life’s course altered due to the fact that they were adopted. They have been forced to give up control and, […]

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Your Adolescent’s Job

March 10, 2011

The “job” of an adolescent is two-fold: discovering who they are while establishing their identity. It sounds easy, doesn’t it? But this job is complex, involving identification of their gender and what that encompasses, as well as defining and understanding their beliefs, values and expectations of themselves. This all-important task requires years of time, independence […]

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A Place to Begin

January 19, 2011

One of the classes I teach addresses transracial parenting. Within the framework of this class we discuss strategies for dealing with racism. Even in this progressive year of 2011, racism, like bias, stereotyping and discrimination, is everywhere. Racism is personal; it is also institutional. Racism segregates individuals into castes and can damage souls. Racism strips […]

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How to Help Your Child Process the Past

October 21, 2010

Adoptive parents are very good about painting the rosy picture—how they came to be families, how they love their children. Parents do this to claim their children. The also do this because as an adoptive family they are in the position of having to validate their family to extended family, friends and strangers. But often, […]

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Identity Formation

May 18, 2010

Forming an identity is not as simple as it seems. Think back to when you were forming yours. Most likely there were a lot of starts and stops. You probably “tried on” a few personas, to see how they “fit.” You were seeking and defining your values, beliefs, and expectations of yourself and others. In […]

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