Abandonment

Now on Sale: What To Expect From Your Adopted Tween

August 1, 2011

Parenting is the most exciting, challenging, rewarding, emotionally taxing, and, hopefully, joyous role you will ever undertake. (I’m sure you have a host of words to describe parenting that I didn’t use…) My new e-guide, What To Expect From Your Adopted Tween, offers a balanced approach to understanding and supporting adolescents who have been adopted […]

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Shoes

July 6, 2011

There is a saying of “putting yourself in someone else’s shoes.” It refers to imagining what it what it would be like to be that person, to have their experiences. Empathy. I think of these metaphorical shoes often, especially as an adoptive parent. My kids wear their “shoes” everyday. Sometimes they’ve appeared tattered—unrecognizable for the […]

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Triggers: Death

May 21, 2011

Adoption has typically been perceived as a one-time event, but we have come to realize that the opposite is true: adoption is life-long. Adoption often impacts life experiences. One of those experiences is death—of pets, of people. In death we do a number of things. We look back, revisiting memories we had with that person […]

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Your Adolescent’s Job

March 10, 2011

The “job” of an adolescent is two-fold: discovering who they are while establishing their identity. It sounds easy, doesn’t it? But this job is complex, involving identification of their gender and what that encompasses, as well as defining and understanding their beliefs, values and expectations of themselves. This all-important task requires years of time, independence […]

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How to Help Your Child Process the Past

October 21, 2010

Adoptive parents are very good about painting the rosy picture—how they came to be families, how they love their children. Parents do this to claim their children. The also do this because as an adoptive family they are in the position of having to validate their family to extended family, friends and strangers. But often, […]

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Identity Formation

May 18, 2010

Forming an identity is not as simple as it seems. Think back to when you were forming yours. Most likely there were a lot of starts and stops. You probably “tried on” a few personas, to see how they “fit.” You were seeking and defining your values, beliefs, and expectations of yourself and others. In […]

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