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Abandonment

Lost and Found: The Adoptee’s Voice

January 13, 2012

To be found implies you have been lost. Many adoptees express that they feel or have felt lost, due to loss.
Adult adoptees’ insights and experiences should not be ignored or disregarded; however they often are. Adult adoptees’ stories, sometimes painful or joyful or mixed, are valid. They should be invited to the “table” and encouraged [...]

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Timing Can be Everything

December 1, 2011

I’ve wanted to address this topic for some time and it seems particularly fitting as we move forward into the hectic holiday season. What topic? Time management.
We’re all busy. Some more than others. And people vary on how much they can have and manage on their “plate” at any given time.
In classes I encourage parents [...]

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Can We Heal? Can We Help To Heal?

November 3, 2011

By Presidential proclamation November is again Adoption Awareness Month. In regard to this, two-time adoptee Jennifer Lauck, author of the best sellers Blackbird, Still Waters and Found, has launched an initiative to open up a national conversation about adoption.
Jennifer believes, as I do, that there is a way to heal and transcend the experience of adoption [...]

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Now on Sale: What To Expect From Your Adopted Tween

August 1, 2011

Parenting is the most exciting, challenging, rewarding, emotionally taxing, and, hopefully, joyous role you will ever undertake. (I’m sure you have a host of words to describe parenting that I didn’t use…) My new e-guide, What To Expect From Your Adopted Tween, offers a balanced approach to understanding and supporting adolescents who have been adopted [...]

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Shoes

July 6, 2011

There is a saying of “putting yourself in someone else’s shoes.” It refers to imagining what it what it would be like to be that person, to have their experiences. Empathy.
I think of these metaphorical shoes often, especially as an adoptive parent. My kids wear their “shoes” everyday. Sometimes they’ve appeared tattered—unrecognizable for the [...]

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Triggers: Death

May 21, 2011

Adoption has typically been perceived as a one-time event, but we have come to realize that the opposite is true: adoption is life-long. Adoption often impacts life experiences. One of those experiences is death—of pets, of people.
In death we do a number of things. We look back, revisiting memories we had with that person or [...]

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