Sharing the Love: A Valentine’s Day Giveaway


Love. Today is about all about love. Flowers, candy—especially chocolate (my fav!), and gifts are given as an expression of love, and friendship. Sometimes we give for other reasons as well.

This Valentine’s Day, I want to give one other gift, a gift of guidance—a copy of my internationally selling What To Expect From Your Adopted Tween. The hook of course is that you must participate. Are you game? The deadline for comments is midnight tomorrow, February 15th. The winner will be drawn by random selection and announced on Monday, February 18th.

GIVEAWAY QUESTION: What are your thoughts abut the following quote from Adoption Healing, by Joe Zoll? Please share them below.

“Adoptees are handicapped in accomplishing virtually all the tasks of adolescence. Because they lack the basic knowledge of their biological roots, they have a harder time trying to form their own sense of identity.”

Additionally, I’ll give put your name in if you share the contest on Facebook or join my mailing list. In other words, you could increase your chances threefold. If you’d like another chance to win, visit Christina Katz’s site where she is also giving away a copy of What To Expect From Your Adopted Tween. Happy Valentine’s Day!

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

Kim February 15, 2013 at 1:13 am

I disagree with this statement. Not all adoptees are affected by not knowing their biological roots. I know many adoptees, and not all of them have/had a hard time not knowing who their biological family is. Yes, some did, but not the majority. I know many individuals who’re just as traumatized by knowing their biological family’s past (drugs, incest, rape, etc. . .)

Being able to form a sense of identity, includes so many factors, such as personality, parental support, and freedom to explore one’s self in a safe and supportive environment.


Lori Lavender Luz February 14, 2013 at 5:50 pm

I think the quote deals with a possibility, maybe even a probability.

But not an absolute.


Julie Gumm February 14, 2013 at 4:00 pm

I guess first is the incorrect assumption that every adoptee is clueless about their “biological roots.” My kids were adopted at ages 7 and 8. Their parents died at ages 3/4 and they lived with their paternal grandmother until shortly before the adoption. We also have contacts with their father’s best friend who is able to provide us history and information.

Will SOME parts of adolescence be harder? Sure. But some or our adoptive kids have shown amazing resilience and strength that may,in fact, make them better prepared to deal with some of the difficult challenges that adolescence brings.


Monica February 14, 2013 at 1:26 pm

Given that Reese isn’t a teen yet (she’s 8), I’m not certain how I feel about the quote. As a teen, my biological roots didn’t seem to play a large part in my development of my sense of identity, but it’s difficult to say it absolutely didn’t when I did have access to that information. Adolescence being what it is though, I wouldn’t be at all surprised for adoptees to have some issues.


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