I just finished reading The Best for You, written by Kelsey Stewart. Written in a conversational first voice and from Stewart’s perspective as a birthmother, the book candidly and warmly speaks to the child who was adopted, answering the questions I have heard my children ask: “Why didn’t she keep me? and “Did she love me?”
The Best for You is written and illustrated for younger children (ages 4-7), but my tween picked it up off the kitchen counter, drawn in by Stewart’s wonderful illustrations, asking if she could read it. I said of course she could and waited to see what she thought. This is my child who has felt so much grief.
My daughter read the story quickly and then went through it more slowly the second time, pausing over the illustrations, touching them. Her response? “It’s good, Mom. She loved her baby and made her choice for her baby. You know, that’s what my birthmother did.”
I believe that The Best for You will become a classic for families who have adopted.
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Parents: Consider reading/sharing books that have adoption themes with your child. These are terrific tools for opening dialogue between you and your child.