From the monthly archives:

May 2010

Time for a Tune-Up

May 27, 2010

School is ending. June arrives next week. Summer is on the horizon. This is one point every year where I take the time to pause and reassess how the year has gone. The chaotic schedule of our family of six slows way down. The season to just “be” with my kids and husband is on [...]

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Sibling Support

May 24, 2010

As your child begins to understand more about what adoption means, he or she may want answers…or not. I have found that two of my kids are very comfortable talking about “everything adoption,” comparing “notes.” (They were born in different countries.)
My kids have spun some interesting tangents off of the facts they do have. And [...]

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Identity Formation

May 18, 2010

Forming an identity is not as simple as it seems. Think back to when you were forming yours. Most likely there were a lot of starts and stops. You probably “tried on” a few personas, to see how they “fit.” You were seeking and defining your values, beliefs, and expectations of yourself and others.
In normal [...]

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The Best for You

May 14, 2010

I just finished reading The Best for You, written by Kelsey Stewart. Written in a conversational first voice and from Stewart’s perspective as a birthmother, the book candidly and warmly speaks to the child who was adopted, answering the questions I have heard my children ask: “Why didn’t she keep me? and “Did she love [...]

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Do You Have a Case of White Privilege?

May 11, 2010

Are you parenting transracially? I am. And the older my kids have become, the more aware I am of how we are seen outside of our immediate family, how my children are perceived and treated.
Parenting transracially can be an additional layer of adoptive parenting and it is something you need to examine. White parents have [...]

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Blood and Adoptive Relations

May 7, 2010

Depending on the child, the understanding of what “blood relations” means happens around the ages of six to eight. My kids began to ask very specific questions about how we were all related during these ages. With these questions came a better understanding of the differences between birth and adoption. My family is of blood [...]

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