Someone once gave me this advice: don’t become caught up in providing all of the answers for your child. Let them discover some of those answers for themselves.
This holds true with adoption. Be there to guide. For example, ask an open-ended question something along the line of, “Have you ever thought…?”
Be available to help with any misconceptions, faulty reasoning, or “stuck places.” You may have to go the impersonal route, using a story or movie and ask your child what they think.
There is value in self-discovery. The child begins to own their identity.
Parents: How do you help your child with his or her problem-solving related to adoption?